Your must-haves in a woman/man

想找什么样的男生/女生

First dates are all about determining whether or not you two make a good match.

初次约会的目的就是为了决定你们俩合不合适在一起。

During the first date, don't hesitate to ask what he/she looks for in the person he/she dates.
所以，不要犹豫，大胆问对方喜欢什么样的男生/女生。

This way you'll have a good idea as to whether or not you two should take things further. Of course, don't make any rash decisions if you don't fit the mold entirely.

这样你可以知道你俩该不该继续发展。当然如果你们不完全符合彼此的标准，也别太快做决定。

Future plans

未来计划

While you shouldn't pry about marriage and children, asking about his or her future plans can lead to a good conversation. 

不要过早打听对方结婚生子的计划，但聊聊未来规划总是好的。

Compare your future plans and see if you two have similar or complementary ideas.

可以对比一下你们的未来规划，看看你俩是否有相似的计划。

Make sure the conversation isn't too focused on marriage and children, or else it can become too heavy for a first date.

话题最好不要过多聚焦于家庭和孩子，这对于初次约会来说有些“超纲”了。

Jobs

工作

Learning about someone's job can say a lot about the person. 

通过一个人的工作，你能了解到很多事情。

What's your career path? Do you like what you do?

比如问问对方：你的职业规划是怎样的？你喜欢现在的工作吗？

These are all great questions that will keep the conversation lively. Maybe you two have similar career aspirations.

这些都是很好的聊天话题。说不定你们两有共同的职业理想呢。

Family

家庭

Don't get into the mindset that you're trying to inch your way into his or her family.

不要表现得好像你想介入对方的家庭。

Instead, ask simple questions, such as: Do you have any siblings? Are you close to your mom and dad?

只问些简单问题就好，比如，你有兄弟姐妹吗？你和父母关系很亲密吗？

Family questions are a good way to determine how family has shaped a person and whether or not their family structure is one that would eventually welcome you.

这些问题有助于你了解对方家庭是如何影响他的成长的，你也可以知道这样的家庭是否会愉快地接纳自己。

Personal favorites

兴趣爱好

Getting to know each others' favorite things is a good way to get a conversation started and keep it going.

了解对方的喜好是很好的开启话题的方式。

Ask about favorite movies, foods, music, celebrities, pets, books and more.

问问对方喜欢的电影、美食、音乐、明星、宠物、书籍等等。

Knowing someone's favorite things helps you to plan dates in the future and also further your conversations.

了解对方的喜好也有助于你们计划将来的约会内容。

Current events

最近的新鲜事

There's always something interesting and newsworthy going on in the world or even in your local neighborhood.

无论是在世界各地，还是在你身边，每时每刻都有妙趣横生甚至可以上新闻的故事在上演。

While you'll want to avoid political or overly religious topics, anything else is game.

除了政治或宗教色彩较浓的话题，其他聊什么都好。

This is the perfect opportunity to share your opinions back and forth.

这是很好的机会来交流你们对事情的看法。

Traveling

旅行

It's always interesting to talk about travel and vacations. Maybe you've been somewhere exotic and want to talk about it, and maybe your date has a travel story worth sharing.

旅游和假期总是有趣的话题。也许你曾经去过异域风情的地方，想和对方分享自己的经历，反之亦然。 

You can also talk about future travel plans or places that the two of you dream of being able to visit one day.

也可以谈论未来的旅游计划，也许将来有一天你们俩可以一起去呢。